Tending the Bones
for Erotic Wellness
A journey from sexual stuckness to erotic freedom in 13 months
Ancestral sexual burdens you may be carrying, these are things like shame, repression, sexual violence (perpetrator or victim) or residual sexual trauma that has been passed down to you.
If you personally have sexual trauma these can become entangled, so that it’s difficult to know what is yours, and what was handed to you.
Transgenerational sexual messaging happened to us all in our families. In some cases, it was a complete lack of information or silence around sexuality education. In others, sex was explicitly deemed negative.
For example, if you had a repressive religious upbringing, chances are that your sexual self-exploration has been impacted, without you ever having a chance to first figure out what your body does.
You were not given the freedom to find what feels right to you personally.
You live mostly in your head
You notice sexual blocks/ inhibitions
You have physical sexual issues like orgasms or libido
Orgasms are small and limited to your genital area
Sexual past prevents you enjoying sex
You're in a low-sex or no-sex relationship
You're in repeating destructive relationship patterns
Shame is a permanent resident
Your ability to feel is compromised; numbness
The sexual routine in your relationship is boring
No current info about sex, safety, consent, or STI's
Not sure how to initiate sex, or what to do
You may experience pelvic pain or discomfort
You feel uncomfortable talking about sex
You don't really know what you want, just not this.
You live fully in your body
You have easy access to your turn-on
Everything's working as it should physically
Your orgasms run a spectrum from good to amazing
You're in the present, experiencing your full sexuality
Great sex is happening on the regular
Your solid intimacy skills connect you
You live a big, joyful shame-free life
You feel exquisite pleasure and sensation
Your sexual relationships are curious and exploratory
You have solid knowledge and know-how about sex
You feel sexually confident
You experience relaxed pleasure
You've got effective sexy communication skills
You know what you want, ask for it, and receive it!
In the first module, We root first in positive resource. You develop embodiment skills, practice physical, verbal and energetic boundaries. Together, we learn how to truly belong in multi-generational community that celebrates eldership, when trauma is present. You learn and practice the skill of discernment. You learn to connect with your well and bright ancestral guides. And we create somatic and prayerful community ritual to anchor in goodness. We deepen into community intimacy and connection, for the sake of holding each other well on this journey. These foundational practices build the skills, resources and connections necessary to move into Module Two.