Reclaim erotic connection, heal shame, and feel more alive in your body.

It’s hard to talk about sex.

Harder still to admit something isn’t working.

Maybe sex isn’t happening in your relationship at all.

Or it is, but it feels disconnected, mechanical, or full of tension.

Maybe you long for more closeness, more turn-on, more freedom, and instead find silence, shutdown, conflict, or avoidance.

Sometimes you’re not even sure what’s wrong.

You just know this isn’t it.

Sexual disconnection can feel like exile

From your body.

From your partner.

From your own desire.

When shame, trauma, or past wounds show up in the bedroom, it’s easy to shut down or blame yourself.

You are not alone in this. And you are not broken.

​Somatic Sex Therapy offers a different way forward.

One that doesn’t ask you to perform, but invites you to listen to your body, speak your truth, and rebuild erotic trust from the inside out.

What Is Somatic Sex Therapy?

Somatic Sex Therapy blends traditional sex therapy with learning to listen to the information your body is sharing. 

It’s not just about talking like traditional sex therapy 

This work is about learning the erotic skills most of us were never taught.

In a safe, guided, fully clothed space, you’ll explore what it means to feel, name, and communicate what’s real in your body.

You might practice:

• Consent and boundary-setting
• Speaking your wants and limits
• Learning to feel again, gently
• Rebuilding trust with yourself and with a partner
• Discovering what actually brings you pleasure.

Sessions are always fully clothed and entirely professional.

There is no sexual activity or touch between therapist and clients.

Any guided somatic exercises are consent-based and focused on awareness, not performance.

You are always in choice. Your pace matters.

​If you're wondering whether Somatic Sex Therapy could help,
​take this self-assessment.

Sexual Stuckness

• You live mostly in your head
• You notice sexual blocks or inhibitions
• You experience pain, numbness, or low desire
• Orgasms are limited or disconnected
• You're in a low-sex or no-sex relationship
• Shame or trauma interfere with pleasure
• You feel awkward or shut down talking about sex
• You don’t know what you want, but you know it’s not this
• You wish sex and intimacy felt easier

​Erotic Freedom

• You feel present and alive in your body
• You have easy access to pleasure and turn-on
• Your sexual relationships are curious and fulfilling
• You can name and ask for what you want
• You trust your boundaries and can hold them
• You feel safe, confident, and connected
• You speak about sex with ease and clarity
• You feel joy and sensation in your body

If you find yourself mostly in the stuck column,
​Somatic Sex Therapy may help you shift toward more connection, clarity, and erotic aliveness.

Somatic Sex Therapy is particularly effective for:

• Mismatched or low libido
• Lack of desire or arousal
• Painful sex or pelvic discomfort
• Aversion to intimacy or touch
• Body image struggles and shame
• Communication breakdowns around sex
• Sexual trauma recovery
• Emotional or physical numbness
• Repetitive conflict in intimate relationships

Somatic Sex Therapy includes
​your body in the process

By working with movement, sensation, breath, and awareness, we help bring your nervous system into the conversation.

This creates real change, not just insight.

Somatic sex therapists are trained to work with the emotional, psychological, and physical aspects of sexuality.

That includes arousal, shame, trauma, power, and pleasure.

It also includes the very human fears and hopes that come with being in a body, in a relationship, and in a world that has made sex confusing or painful.

What to Expect in a Session

• Somatic Sex Therapy sessions are safe, professional, and collaborative.
• We might sit and talk.
• We might breathe together, track sensation, or role-play conversations you’ve been too scared to have.​
• You may be invited to notice how your body responds in real time, and practice speaking from that place.

What Results Can You Expect from Somatic Sex Therapy? 

The benefits of Somatic Sex Therapy show up in your body, your bedroom, and your life.
My clients often tell me things like,

“I’m feeling more.”

“I like sex again.”
​
“I finally said what I wanted, and it went well.”

• You feel more sensations in your body.
• You trust yourself more.
• You know what you want, and  feel more confident asking for it.
  
• Shame softens.
• Conversations about sex get easier.
• Relationships feel closer, more connected.

★★★★★

​In the words of one client:
"The somatic sex therapy work I have begun in such a holistic way with Pavini's guidance and support is deeply powerful.
​It is healing and transformative, starting at the cellular layer and spiraling through my body, my sex, my emotions, my brain, my actions and relationships — all of me.
In particular, I'm able to stay present during sex, and last week I asked my partner for something I'd been afraid to ask for.
​And she said yes. I am so grateful for the wonderful sex education, sex coaching and loving whole-hearted support Pavini has given me."
— Mel G., San Francisco, CA

Hi. I'm Pavini.

This is a picture of my and my partner of 15 years.

​I offer somatic sex therapy because I know, in my own body, what it’s like to be on a sexual healing path.

Talk therapy helped me understand what happened. But it was somatics that gave me back my desire. My boundaries. My capacity to feel. That’s what changed things in bed, not just in my mind. And not just bed, but my life, my creativity, and my work. 

I take your pacing seriously. Consent is the ground we stand on.
I’m not here to push you or fix you. I’m here to walk alongside you, to offer support as you find your way back to the kind of sexuality that feels true.

I am queer and trans non-binary, and I hold space for humans of every variety. 

I want erotic freedom for you, and would be honored to help you find that. 

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Frequently Asked Questions About Somatic Sex Therapy

Is somatic sex therapy the same as sex therapy?

Somatic sex therapy blends traditional sex therapy with body-based awareness. Talk therapy can help you understand what happened. Somatics is what actually shifts your body back into desire, boundaries, and the capacity to feel. Both matter, but the body is where the real change lands.

Do you touch clients during sessions?

No. Sessions are fully clothed and professional throughout, and there is no sexual activity or touch between therapist and client. Any guided somatic exercises are consent-based and focused on awareness, not performance. You are always in choice, and your pace sets the terms.

Do I need a partner to do this work, or can I come alone?

Either. I work with individuals rebuilding their relationship to their own body and desire, and I work with couples moving through disconnection together. Both paths start from the same place: what's real in your body right now.

What actually happens in a session?

Sessions are collaborative and shift based on what you bring. Sometimes we sit and talk. Sometimes we breathe together, track sensation, or role-play a conversation you've been too scared to have. You may notice how your body responds in real time and practice speaking from that place.

Who is somatic sex therapy for?

It tends to help most with mismatched or low libido, painful sex, aversion to touch or intimacy, body image shame, sexual trauma recovery, emotional numbness, and conflict that keeps circling back to sex. If you live mostly in your head around sex, or you know something isn't working but can't name it, this work is built for that.

Do you work with queer and trans clients?

Yes. I'm queer and trans non-binary myself, and I hold space for people across the full range of gender and sexuality.

Curious about
​what erotic freedom could mean for you? 

It starts with one  conversation. 

I’ll listen with care to whatever you’re ready to share.
We’ll talk through what’s happening, what you’re wanting, and whether this work feels like a fit.

Schedule your free call now and you'll leave with a plan of what to do next.

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