For couples who still love each other but are worn out by the dynamic
You’ve done the work.
Therapy. Communication tools. Trying to meet in the middle.
But none of it has lasted.
You’re still caught in the same cycles.
Fights that never resolve.
Disconnection that lingers.
The sense that you’re no longer meeting each other.
You don’t want to start over with someone new.
But you can’t keep going like this.
Therapy. Communication tools. Trying to meet in the middle.
But none of it has lasted.
You’re still caught in the same cycles.
Fights that never resolve.
Disconnection that lingers.
The sense that you’re no longer meeting each other.
You don’t want to start over with someone new.
But you can’t keep going like this.
That’s why I offer online somatic couples therapy.
We work with what’s happening right now, in your body and in your relationship, to help you repair, reconnect, and build something new.
What is somatic couple’s coaching?
It’s a body-based approach to working with your relationship.
Because relationships live in the body.
We track what’s happening in your nervous systems when things go sideways.
We name the patterns and begin to practice something else.
This work is not about digging up the past and rehashing every argument.
We don’t spend hours figuring out whose fault it was.
We focus on what is happening now, and what helps you stay connected in the moment.
You learn skills you can actually use, right in the middle of the mess.
We’re building something new, not staying stuck in what already hurts.
That means practice. That means trying things. That means paying attention in a new way.
And you learn new skills that will serve you in every relationship in your life, for the rest of your life.
Because relationships live in the body.
- The clench in your gut when they say that thing.
- The moment you go numb to keep the peace.
- When you freeze, and the tension in your jaw.
We track what’s happening in your nervous systems when things go sideways.
We name the patterns and begin to practice something else.
This work is not about digging up the past and rehashing every argument.
We don’t spend hours figuring out whose fault it was.
We focus on what is happening now, and what helps you stay connected in the moment.
You learn skills you can actually use, right in the middle of the mess.
We’re building something new, not staying stuck in what already hurts.
That means practice. That means trying things. That means paying attention in a new way.
And you learn new skills that will serve you in every relationship in your life, for the rest of your life.
What we practice in somatic couples therapy:
- How to come back from a fight without pretending it didn’t happen
- How to hear each other without shutting down or blowing up
- How to name needs without blame
- How to repair when trust has been stretched thin
- How to feel safe in connection again
- How to get back on the same team
Slowly, and then more.
The cost of not changing anything
Over time, stuckness takes a toll.
Your nervous system stays activated. You stop sleeping well. You feel tense around your partner even when nothing is happening. You get headaches, stomachaches, or just that general drained feeling.
You stop reaching out. Or you reach, and get nothing back.
Sex becomes another source of pressure. Or stops entirely.
Small things turn into arguments. Or worse, nothing at all. Silence. Numbness. Co-existing instead of connecting.
You start resenting them for things you never used to care about.
You start resenting yourself for not being able to fix it.
The things you built together start to feel like a trap instead of a life.
And even though you still care about each other, you stop showing it.
The warmth fades. The laughter goes quiet. You miss them even when they're right there.
That’s the cost.
You don’t need to be at a breaking point to change.
But if something doesn’t shift, you will break.
You get to interrupt that. You get to choose something else.
Your nervous system stays activated. You stop sleeping well. You feel tense around your partner even when nothing is happening. You get headaches, stomachaches, or just that general drained feeling.
You stop reaching out. Or you reach, and get nothing back.
Sex becomes another source of pressure. Or stops entirely.
Small things turn into arguments. Or worse, nothing at all. Silence. Numbness. Co-existing instead of connecting.
You start resenting them for things you never used to care about.
You start resenting yourself for not being able to fix it.
The things you built together start to feel like a trap instead of a life.
And even though you still care about each other, you stop showing it.
The warmth fades. The laughter goes quiet. You miss them even when they're right there.
That’s the cost.
You don’t need to be at a breaking point to change.
But if something doesn’t shift, you will break.
You get to interrupt that. You get to choose something else.
Who somatic couple's therapy is for
- You still love each other, but you're not okay.
- You’re looping the same arguments or avoiding what matters.
- You’ve tried therapy, read the books, done the workshops.
- You’re looking for a body-based, relational approach with someone actively in a long-term relationship themselves, who gets it on a personal and practical level.
- You want tools that work in real life, not just on the page.
- I work with couples online, and work with many couples from San Francisco, New York City, Seattle and beyond.
What to expect in somatic couple's therapy
We start with a free 30-minute intro call.
You tell me what’s happening.
I’ll tell you what I hear.
We see if it feels like a fit.
If we decide to work together, we create a 3 or 6-month coaching container.
I begin with a deep assessment of your relationship to understand what’s working and where you’re stuck. Together, we identify your strengths and uncover the patterns that need care and attention.From there, we work with practical tools to help you navigate conflict, strengthen your bond, and build a shared language of meaning and connection.
You’ll learn essential skills in emotional regulation and communication, creating a steady foundation for your relationship to grow and repair, now and over time. The skills and practices you learn will be yours for a lifetime, positively impacting every relationship that follows.
You tell me what’s happening.
I’ll tell you what I hear.
We see if it feels like a fit.
If we decide to work together, we create a 3 or 6-month coaching container.
I begin with a deep assessment of your relationship to understand what’s working and where you’re stuck. Together, we identify your strengths and uncover the patterns that need care and attention.From there, we work with practical tools to help you navigate conflict, strengthen your bond, and build a shared language of meaning and connection.
You’ll learn essential skills in emotional regulation and communication, creating a steady foundation for your relationship to grow and repair, now and over time. The skills and practices you learn will be yours for a lifetime, positively impacting every relationship that follows.
- We meet regularly.
- You bring what’s real.
- I bring tools from my Well Couple framework.
- We practice what needs practicing.
- We stay with what shows up.
- We get curious.
- We go slow.
- We build skills.
What to do next
Book your free intro call
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Let’s find out if this support is what your relationship needs.
Click below to find a time that works.
Let’s find out if this support is what your relationship needs.
