Maybe you feel quietly lonely alongside the person who used to be your best friend

Maybe you sit beside them at dinner, nodding and smiling, while your chest tightens with the ache of disconnection.
The more you reach toward them, the more they disappear behind a wall, leaving you clutching at crumbs.
Or maybe you’re angry—resentful, even.
You slam the dishwasher door harder than you mean to, fury rising in your chest as they scroll on their phone, not even looking up. 



​​Where did the person go who used to bring you so much joy? Why don't they listen to you anymore?
It's confusing. They used to feel like home. 'How did we get here?' you wonder. 
You want to be seen, touched, and known, but the intimacy you need feels like a far, distant galaxy.
Likely, you've tried stuff: read articles, done the date nights, and 'spice-it-up' tips. Maybe you've tried talk therapy.
But nothing has shifted it for long.
The same dynamics return, digging the hole deeper.
The longer this goes on, the harder it becomes to remember what connection even felt like, or to imagine that you can return to it.
You feel hollowed out, threadbare from trying so hard.
If you're honest, you’re not sure how much longer the relationship can hang on.
​But you don't want to lose them.
Somewhere inside, you know it's not supposed to be like this.
And I'm here to tell you: it doesn't have to be.
I’ve helped hundreds of couples like you who still love each other, but are too exhausted, burnt out, and broken-hearted to keep going like this.
Meet Somatic Relationship Therapist Dr. Pavini Moray
Hi, I'm Pavini
I'm so glad you found your way here.

​I’ve been a somatic coach and relationship therapist for two decades and have taught and worked with hundreds of couples to restore connection and intimacy.



​I'm also a long-term partner in a happy, loving marriage. (Keep reading, there's a pic of me with my partner.)
I believe in the power of intimacy for joy, connection, our good lives, and our vitality.
Relationships are one of the fiercest places we learn to be human, and they’re worth every bit of effort it takes to make them thrive.



​I'm here to support you and your partner in returning to connection: sweet, loving, hot or however you want it. 
I offer a free connection call to help you and your partner gain clarity, and know if working with me is the right next step. 
"Like a trusted & level-headed best friend who's always completely real and calls you on your bullshit in a totally compassionate and loving way, Pavini radiates a deep psychic, somatic and spiritual intelligence.
Pavini walked my partner and I through a somatic healing process in our marriage that's led to us feeling connected and playful. And intimate!" 
~R&M, Brooklyn, NY
The Real Reason Nothing Has Worked (Yet)​
​No matter how many conversations you’ve had, they won’t reach the root of the issue.
That’s because relationships don’t live in your head. They live in your body—in your breath, your tone, your timing, your reach.
To shift the pattern, you have to shift the place it’s coming from.
Your relationship lives in your nervous system, in the way your body braces, flinches, softens, or pulls away.


That’s where somatics comes in.

Somatic couples coaching works directly with your body to transform the patterns between you.
​It’s not magic. But it can feel that way.
We go straight to the root: the defenses, the patterns, the nervous system habits playing out between you.


​In our sessions, you’ll practice new ways of being together, not just talk about what’s wrong.
Unlike therapy, we don’t rehash every fight. We shift your dynamic in real time.
We’ll build skills, yes, but first we focus on emotional safety and
getting back on the same team.
​Imagine laughing again.
Reaching for each other.
Feeling safe ​in the same room
I’ve seen this work again and again for couples who had tried
everything and were ready to give up
If this speaks to you, let’s talk.
I offer a free connection call where we’ll get clear on what’s happening, what you’re longing for, and whether working together is the right fit.
No pressure. Just a real conversation.
You share what’s really going on. I listen deeply, name the pattern, and offer concrete next steps.
Sometimes that means working with me. Sometimes it doesn’t.
Either way, you’ll leave with insight and a plan for moving forward.
​"Pavini is a seriously awesome human who has provided invaluable support to me and my husband both individually and as a couple. We were in a marital crisis when we started somatic coaching, and I'm happy to report that we are now not only on solid ground but thriving and opening in so many unexpected & delightful directions ~ just 3 months later."
~S&A, Berkeley, CA
My beloved partner Ari and I have been together for 15 years. We've rebuilt, recommitted, and keep refining how we love each other.

​For just as long, I’ve helped other couples do the same—finding their way back to trust, intimacy, and connection after rupture.
I'm currently accepting new couples—apply while spots are open.
CONFIDENTIAL, TRAUMA-INFORMED, NON-JUDGMENTAL SPACE.
PhD SOMATIC PSYCHOLOGY, 15+ YEARS HEALING RELATIONSHIPS
​​“We were at gridlock—but Pavini’s somatic couples therapy approach
​brought us back to the same team-- embodied, connected, and hopeful again.”
~Sam and Kyle W. Marin, CA
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