you feel lonely next to the person who used to be your best friend

You sit beside them at dinner, nodding and smiling, while your chest tightens with the ache of disconnection.
The more you reach toward them, the more they disappear behind a wall, leaving you clutching at crumbs.
You may feel angry, resentful or even contemptuous. 
You slam the dishwasher door harder than you mean to, fury rising in your chest as they scroll on their phone, not even looking up. 



​​Where did the person go who used to bring you so much joy? Why don't they listen to you anymore?
It's confusing. They used to feel like home. 'How did we get here?' you wonder. 
You want to be seen, touched, and known, but the intimacy you need feels like a far, distant galaxy.
Likely, you've tried stuff: read articles, done the date nights, and 'spice-it-up' tips. Maybe you've tried talk therapy.
But nothing has shifted it for long.
The same dynamics return, digging the hole deeper.
The longer this goes on, the harder it becomes to remember what connection even felt like, or to imagine that you can return to it.
You feel hollowed out, threadbare from trying so hard.
If you're honest, you’re not sure how much longer the relationship can hang on.
​But you don't want to lose them.
Somewhere inside, you know it's not supposed to be like this.
And I'm here to tell you: it doesn't have to be.
I’ve helped hundreds of couples like you who still love each other, but are too exhausted, burnt out, and broken-hearted to keep going like this.
Meet Somatic Relationship Therapist Dr. Pavini Moray
couples therapy near me
Confidential, trauma-informed, non-judgmental space. PhD in Somatic Psychology.​
Hi, I'm Pavini
  • 15+ years of walking couples through the hardest parts of relationship back to love and connection.
  • 16+ years of personal work in my own marriage, two crisis points, one complete relationship restructure. Now, happy adult marriage. ​
I've taught hundreds of couples to restore connection, intimacy and closeness, and I can help you and your partner find your way back to each other. 
Relationships are one of the fiercest places we learn to be human, and they’re worth every bit of effort it takes to make them thrive.


I offer a free connection call to help you and your partner gain clarity, and know if working with me is the right next step. 
★★★★★
5 Star Reviews
★★★★★

"Pavini is a seriously awesome human who has provided invaluable support to me and my husband both individually and as a couple. We were in a marital crisis when we started relationship coaching, and I'm happy to report that we are now not only on solid ground but thriving and opening in so many unexpected & delightful directions ~ just 3 months later."

Sarah L. & Ahmad R., Berkeley, CA

★★★★★

"Like a trusted & level-headed best friend who's always completely real and calls you on your bullshit in a totally compassionate and loving way, Pavini radiates a deep psychic, somatic and spiritual intelligence. Pavini walked my partner and I through a somatic healing process in our marriage that's led to us feeling connected and playful. And intimate!"

Rina & Mahesh V., Brooklyn, NY

The Real Reason Nothing Has Worked (Yet)​
​No matter how many conversations you’ve had, they won’t reach the root of the issue.
That’s because relationships don’t live in your head. They live in your body—in your breath, your tone, your timing, your reach.

What's more, we all have relationship patterns we learned as kids coming to mess up our current relationship. 

To shift patterns, you have to shift the place it’s coming from.

​We go straight to the root: the defenses, the patterns, the nervous system habits playing out between you.


​In our sessions, you’ll practice new ways of being together, not just talk about what’s wrong.
Unlike therapy, we don’t rehash every fight. We shift your dynamic in real time.
We’ll build skills, yes, but first we focus on emotional safety and
getting back on the same team.
​Imagine laughing again.
Reaching for each other.
Feeling safe ​in the same room
I’ve seen this work again and again for couples who had tried
everything and were ready to give up.

My sweet spot is working with couples for whom change feels impossible. 
If this speaks to you, let’s talk.
I offer a free connection call where we’ll get clear on what’s happening, what you’re longing for, and whether working together is the right fit.
You share what’s really going on. I listen deeply, name the pattern, and offer concrete next steps.
I will tell you straight away if I can help. 
Either way, you’ll leave with insight and a plan for moving forward.
★★★★★
​​“We were at gridlock—but Pavini’s somatic couples therapy approach
​brought us back to the same team-- embodied, connected, and hopeful again.”
~Sam and Kyle W. Marin, CA
My beloved partner Ari and I have been together for 15 years.

​We've rebuilt our entire dynamic and marriage, recommitted, and keep redefining how we love each other.

​For just as long, I’ve helped other couples do the same—finding their way back to trust, intimacy, and connection after rupture.
I'm currently accepting new couples—apply while spots are open.
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