For Gay, Lesbian, queer, trans, and non-binary couples ready for real connection.

LGBTQ+ couples therapy has to do more than swap pronouns in a straight framework.

Queer, trans, and non-binary couples carry a different set of pressures into a relationship: mismatched coming-out timelines, distance from family of origin, minority stress that lives in the nervous system long before it shows up as a fight, and relationship structures the standard couples therapy model was never built to hold.

I offer somatic, RLT-informed couples therapy for LGBTQ+ partners, as a queer, trans and non-binary practitioner who has lived enough of this terrain to recognize it in you, not just studied it from the outside. I've been in a queer/trans partnership for 16 years, 14 happy! 

Our work together is trans-affirming, non-binary-affirming couples work for partners at any stage, whether you're navigating a transition together, renegotiating your relationship structure, or simply tired of explaining your own relationship before the real work can start.

LGBTQ+ Couples Therapy: What Partners Want to Know

What makes LGBTQ+ couples therapy different from standard couples counseling?

Most couples therapy frameworks were built around a straight, cisgender template, and queer and trans couples end up spending session time translating their relationship into that shape before the actual work can start. Gender-affirming couples work has to hold mismatched coming-out timelines, distance from family of origin, minority stress that shows up in the body as hypervigilance or shutdown, and relationship structures outside the default. A queer or trans-affirming practitioner starts from your relationship's actual terrain instead of asking you to explain it first.

What does somatic couples therapy have to do with being queer or trans?

So much of what queer and trans partners carry lives in the body long before it reaches language: the flinch that predates the fight, the bracing that happens before either partner has said a word. Somatic couples therapy works at that level directly. Relational Life Therapy then gives the diagnostic clarity to name the pattern once we've found it, so the work moves from what the body already knows to something both partners can actually practice.

Is this only for couples in crisis?

No. This work is for queer, trans, and non-binary couples at any stage, newly together and building a foundation, years in and stuck in a cycle neither partner can name, navigating a transition together, or renegotiating a relationship structure. Couples who aren't in crisis and simply want fewer blind spots and more real intimacy benefit just as much as couples on the brink.

Do you work with non-monogamous or polyamorous couples?

Yes. Relationship structures outside the default monogamous model are held as a legitimate starting point, not something to fix or explain away. The work meets your relationship as it's actually structured.

Why work with a non-binary practitioner specifically?

Lived experience changes what's possible in the room. As a non-binary practitioner, this work comes from having navigated this terrain personally, not only studied it from the outside. Queer and trans couples often describe finally being able to skip the explaining and get straight to the actual work.

If you want to find out whether this work is right for you and your partner, the first step is a free 30-minute call. You'll leave with a clearer read on what's actually happening between you and whether it's fixable.

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