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Before Couples' Sessions
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After Couples' Sessions
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What happened to our sex life?
Often, when couples initially connect, sex is passionate, frequent and hot. Sometimes so much so that couples can't eat, sleep or function, and spend all of their time in bed! It is natural for our sexual connections to shift and change, to ebb and flow, to reflect the level of intimacy and connection within our relationships. Sometimes, however, this natural contraction and expansion of sexual flow between lovers becomes stuck. Sex can become problematic. Even the most connected couples experience sexual challenges at some point in their relationship!
Once the chemical high of new sex relationship has deepened into the more sustainable love relationship, we can expect sex to change. If a partner has a difficult sexual past, a new partner can offset problematic sexual responses, for awhile. But after time, these patterns have a tendency to return. Also, couples can become entrenched in patterns of disconnect or resentment, or even just in patterns of turn-on and sexual expression.
Even in functional relationships, sex and intimacy change over time. Life changes such as stress, illness, becoming parents, moving, work-related stress, ailing parents, can change how we express our sexuality in partnership. If cycles of blame or denial or withholding of love and intimacy are happening, sex becomes weaponized. There is a chasm that occurs within the relationship that becomes hard to span. If a couple gets blocked around sex, it can be really challenging to talk about it the discomfort or unhappiness you are feeling in your intimate partnership. Often sex is a barometer for communication in your relationship in general.
Here's where a Somatic Sex Therapist can really facilitate a transition back towards erotic wellness and a happy sex life for a couple. Somatic Sex Therapy and sex coaching offers tools, exercises and support for couples to honestly face the issues they have, and move gently away from sexual blocks, towards pleasure and connection.
Once the chemical high of new sex relationship has deepened into the more sustainable love relationship, we can expect sex to change. If a partner has a difficult sexual past, a new partner can offset problematic sexual responses, for awhile. But after time, these patterns have a tendency to return. Also, couples can become entrenched in patterns of disconnect or resentment, or even just in patterns of turn-on and sexual expression.
Even in functional relationships, sex and intimacy change over time. Life changes such as stress, illness, becoming parents, moving, work-related stress, ailing parents, can change how we express our sexuality in partnership. If cycles of blame or denial or withholding of love and intimacy are happening, sex becomes weaponized. There is a chasm that occurs within the relationship that becomes hard to span. If a couple gets blocked around sex, it can be really challenging to talk about it the discomfort or unhappiness you are feeling in your intimate partnership. Often sex is a barometer for communication in your relationship in general.
Here's where a Somatic Sex Therapist can really facilitate a transition back towards erotic wellness and a happy sex life for a couple. Somatic Sex Therapy and sex coaching offers tools, exercises and support for couples to honestly face the issues they have, and move gently away from sexual blocks, towards pleasure and connection.
Couple's Somatic Sex Therapy is ideal if you and your partner would like:
- to deepen your sexual connection. Couples that make time for regular physical intimacy fare better than those that do not. Relationships where sex is fun and exploratory, and meets both partners' needs for connection and consent rest upon a strong foundation.
- have better communication about sex, fantasy, desire and boundaries. Talking about what you want or don't want is a skill that can be learned over time. If this is type of communication is not regularly occurring in your relationship, professional support can help break the silence and get you talking.
- have better sex, or to start having sex again. Often, partners don't want to 'rock the boat' in terms of the sex they are having, and sex can get boring, repetitious, canned, or infrequent. Somatic Sex Therapy helps you communicate about sex, so that you can start having it how and when you want!
Couple's Somatic Sex Therapy Sessions are an ideal container to explore new techniques, break old habits, and reinvigorate your sex life. All with non-judgmental hands-on support, in real time. Exploring sexuality together as a couple can deepen connection, and expand pleasure as well as help with sexual problems couples are having. Somatic Sex Therapy can allow you to heal or shift sexual challenges, try new techniques, break old habits, increase the intimacy you share, and reinvigorate your couple's sex life. If you have stopped having sex, or has a low-sex marriage, or sex needs to be better, seeing a somatic sex therapist will help.
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Somatic sex therapy for couples can include:
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I work in San Francisco and beyond with queer couples of all gender identities. I often work with queer women in relationship with other queer women, helping restore sex, pleasure, sweetness, intimacy and eroticism to your relationship/s. Call today and get started on the road home to connection.