Erotic Confidence gets you bargains on car shopping!

As you may know, I've been a somatic sex therapist for a long while. I've seen hundreds of clients, and without fail, there are some things that almost everyone struggles with, and almost nobody talks about.
Feeling solid and confident in your sexuality is a struggle for many.
How about you?
Thing is, your sexual self-esteem matters more than you know.
Let me tell you a story to illustrate the point.
I started erotic confidence as a practice in 2008.
That meant looking at my relationship with my body. With shame. With desire.
It meant stretching the edges of my comfort zone for the sake of more freedom.
It meant lots of experiences, parties, performances, rituals and dates where I held feeling erotic confidence as my end-game.
I learned to say yes, to say no, to ask for what I want, to negotiate.
Practiced opening my mind to new types of sexuality.
I was doing all of that, and then I went to buy a new car.
Before I went to see the car I hoped to buy, I made a list of what I wanted.
The interest rate. The features. The price I wanted to pay.
It was the first new car I'd ever purchased, and the first time I had to negotiate with a car salesperson.
And if you've ever bought a car from a dealer, you know what happened. I got to the meeting, and the salesperson tried to talk me up on Every. Single. Thing. on my list.
It felt super gross and pushy, but I really wanted that car, so I tolerated it for awhile, but then realized that the whole experience wasn't what I wanted.
So I stood up, and walked out.
I felt strong, confident, and empowered as I walked out. I knew I'd find the perfect car for me, that would meet everything on my list, or even surpass it!
You might have already guessed how this story ends.

• The salesperson chased me down in the parking lot.
• Gave me everything I wanted from my list.
• Plus a moonroof.
• Plus an extended warranty.
• And I drove away in my shiny new car.

Later, I realized that while I had been practicing EROTIC confidence, there isn't really a difference from regular confidence.
My erotic confidence practices had built my self-esteem to a point where I felt self-assured, clear and was my own ally for what I wanted.
THAT'S the value of erotic confidence: willingness to walk away from what's not exactly in your best interest, and trusting yourself to find an even better situation.
Just to really connect the dots, your erotic confidence impacts ALL of your relationships. Your career. Your community interactions. And yes, even what car you drive!
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