Hi! I'm Dr. Pavini Moray. They/Them
I'm a somatic coach and relationship therapist
with a Ph.D in Somatic Psychology.
with a Ph.D in Somatic Psychology.
I’m here to help you and your relationships thrive.
You want relationships that feel real, whether with your partner, your community, your team, or yourself.
Maybe you're done with relationships built on obligation, or old unequal power dynamics.
You’re ready for a life that can hold complexity, truth, and change.
Maybe your heart is longing for love that stretches wider than the oldest habits of your nervous system, you know, real intimacy.
Or maybe you're a leader who is burned out, or dealing with being cancelled or struggling to receive or give feedback.
I work with individuals, couples, and leaders who are ready to reconnect, repair ruptures, and rewire the patterns that shape how they live, lead, and love in relationships.
If any of these sound like you, and you're ready for substantive change in your life, let's talk.
Maybe you're done with relationships built on obligation, or old unequal power dynamics.
You’re ready for a life that can hold complexity, truth, and change.
Maybe your heart is longing for love that stretches wider than the oldest habits of your nervous system, you know, real intimacy.
Or maybe you're a leader who is burned out, or dealing with being cancelled or struggling to receive or give feedback.
I work with individuals, couples, and leaders who are ready to reconnect, repair ruptures, and rewire the patterns that shape how they live, lead, and love in relationships.
If any of these sound like you, and you're ready for substantive change in your life, let's talk.
Book a free intro call
and we’ll explore what’s possible.
Most of my clients have already done some work.
They’ve done therapy and read the books. They've rehashed the past.
But they’re still stuck.
They want something that shifts the present.
That's where somatics comes in.
Together, we bring your body into the conversation.
They’ve done therapy and read the books. They've rehashed the past.
But they’re still stuck.
They want something that shifts the present.
That's where somatics comes in.
Together, we bring your body into the conversation.
I help individuals like you:
- Feel more regulated and grounded in your body
- Shift out of chronic stress responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn
- Trust your boundaries, desires, and inner signals
- Interrupt painful relational patterns and embody new ways of connecting
- Heal sexual trauma and aversion
- Reclaim your aliveness so you can move through the world with clarity, creativity, and power
I help leaders:
- Embody their power and lead with integrity
- Rebuild after being cancelled
- Step into leadership for the first time
- Inspire deeper collaboration and trust within their teams
- Align their practices with their bold, embodied vision
I help couples who still love each other:
- Stop looping the same fights
- Rebuild the connection after rupture
- FIgure out triggers
- Navigate attachment patterns with skill and compassion
- Work through sexual issues
- Find your way to shared sexuality that reflects who you are now
- Build anti-capitalist relationships
- Rebuild trust, so you lean in instead of pulling away
- Come back together faster after conflict, without blame or defensiveness.
What is Relational Somatics?
Relational Somatics is the practice of turning to the body as a teacher for how we love, connect, and belong.
It supports the unwinding of old attachment patterns so safety and closeness become possible, and it offers tools that grow trust, honesty, and ease in relationship. The work is not only personal.
It asks how we come into right relationship with partners, communities, and systems of power, and how we extend that care to the other-than-human world.
I do this work because I believe a more relational world is possible, one where embodiment and justice meet and where our connections are shaped by dignity, reciprocity, and reverence for life.
It supports the unwinding of old attachment patterns so safety and closeness become possible, and it offers tools that grow trust, honesty, and ease in relationship. The work is not only personal.
It asks how we come into right relationship with partners, communities, and systems of power, and how we extend that care to the other-than-human world.
I do this work because I believe a more relational world is possible, one where embodiment and justice meet and where our connections are shaped by dignity, reciprocity, and reverence for life.
My Approach
My work blends:
This is change that starts in your body.
We work at the level of your nervous system, sensation, memory, lineage, and Eros, so the shift doesn’t just make sense in your head; it lands in your bones.
- Somatics: because your body is a wise teacher
- Relational Life Therapy because it's fast and effective
- Magick & ritual: because love is sacred work
- Ancestral connection: because we carry what came before
- Pleasure & erotic aliveness: because feeling good matters (a lot!)
- Laughter: because if you don't have a sense of humor, it's just not funny (says clown Wavy Gravy)
- Attachment repair and transgenerational trauma healing: whether you’re navigating abandonment wounds or your grandmother’s ghost in the room, I guide you toward remembering how to bond, trust, and thrive.
This is change that starts in your body.
We work at the level of your nervous system, sensation, memory, lineage, and Eros, so the shift doesn’t just make sense in your head; it lands in your bones.
Why work with me?
My partner of 15 years and I
Because I’ve been there and am there.
I’m in a long-term partnership for 15 years, raised kids, doing the work from the inside.
I’ve been through rupture. I’ve rebuilt trust.
I've become securely attached.
Professionally:
I’ve worked with hundreds of couples, designed embodied curricula, and built a thriving somatic practice from the ground up. For many years I worked primarily as a sex therapist, before expanding into embodied relationship work.
Before Relational Somatics coaching, I was a Montessori educator and curriculum designer. That sharpened my ability to break big concepts into small, teachable moments. Now, I help couples do what they were never taught: love well.
I also have built multiple businesses, including leading a ten-person team and building an online school, and founding a healing arts collective in San Francisco. I know about leadership from lessons I have learned personally.
I identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. I am white of European descent. My pronouns are they/them.
I’m in a long-term partnership for 15 years, raised kids, doing the work from the inside.
I’ve been through rupture. I’ve rebuilt trust.
I've become securely attached.
Professionally:
I’ve worked with hundreds of couples, designed embodied curricula, and built a thriving somatic practice from the ground up. For many years I worked primarily as a sex therapist, before expanding into embodied relationship work.
Before Relational Somatics coaching, I was a Montessori educator and curriculum designer. That sharpened my ability to break big concepts into small, teachable moments. Now, I help couples do what they were never taught: love well.
I also have built multiple businesses, including leading a ten-person team and building an online school, and founding a healing arts collective in San Francisco. I know about leadership from lessons I have learned personally.
I identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. I am white of European descent. My pronouns are they/them.
Statement of Inclusivity
I welcome those whose lives do not fit neatly into categories.
My work is for queer, trans, and non-binary people, for survivors, for people of color, for disabled folks, and for anyone carrying the weight of histories that have tried to silence or erase them. I honor the brilliance that comes from living at the margins, and I recognize the wounds that oppression leaves in bodies and relationships.
I also work with so-called “normies.” People in cis, straight, or more conventional identities are not outside this circle. We all inherit patterns of power, attachment, and disconnection. Relational somatics offers a way for anyone to step into right relationship with themselves, with others, and with the world.
I believe healing is collective, not individual. To practice Relational Somatics is to commit to justice, to dismantling systems of domination, and to building new ways of being together. I aim to cultivate spaces where power is named, accountability is possible, and liberation can be practiced in real time.
I also understand that humans are not the only ones in relationship. The other-than-human world is part of every session. Right relationship extends to the land, the waters, and the more-than-human kin who accompany us.
This work is not about fitting into someone else’s definition of wholeness. It is about reclaiming dignity, choice, and belonging, and moving toward a world where every body can be free.
My work is for queer, trans, and non-binary people, for survivors, for people of color, for disabled folks, and for anyone carrying the weight of histories that have tried to silence or erase them. I honor the brilliance that comes from living at the margins, and I recognize the wounds that oppression leaves in bodies and relationships.
I also work with so-called “normies.” People in cis, straight, or more conventional identities are not outside this circle. We all inherit patterns of power, attachment, and disconnection. Relational somatics offers a way for anyone to step into right relationship with themselves, with others, and with the world.
I believe healing is collective, not individual. To practice Relational Somatics is to commit to justice, to dismantling systems of domination, and to building new ways of being together. I aim to cultivate spaces where power is named, accountability is possible, and liberation can be practiced in real time.
I also understand that humans are not the only ones in relationship. The other-than-human world is part of every session. Right relationship extends to the land, the waters, and the more-than-human kin who accompany us.
This work is not about fitting into someone else’s definition of wholeness. It is about reclaiming dignity, choice, and belonging, and moving toward a world where every body can be free.
My Books
I’m the author of:
I write Glitter Joyride: weekly guidance for healing, relating, and resisting with heart. Trauma-informed somatics meets anti-capitalist magick. Poetic, practical support for navigating life in a body with sparkle, depth, and zero bullshit.
I’m the author of:
- How to Hold Power: A Somatic Approach to Power, Leadership and Liberation
- Tending the Bones: Reclaiming Pleasure After Transgenerational Sexual Trauma
I write Glitter Joyride: weekly guidance for healing, relating, and resisting with heart. Trauma-informed somatics meets anti-capitalist magick. Poetic, practical support for navigating life in a body with sparkle, depth, and zero bullshit.
Ready to shift?
In our free intro call, we’ll:
- Clarify what’s not working
- Name what you want instead
- Explore whether this work can help. I'll be honest with you, and you'll walk away with greater clarity and a plan for moving forward.
Client Review
The biggest impact studying with Pavini has had on me is giving me hope and trust in daily aliveness practices.
I have more vocabulary now for all sorts of things I have never dug into before, and I also have greater resilience and capacity in being with and experiencing those things without it needing to be re-traumatizing or causing endless thought cyclones.
I have more power now to return to my body, listen to it, and trust its ability to process and move through things with vulnerability and grace.
-Natalie, Oakland CA
I have more vocabulary now for all sorts of things I have never dug into before, and I also have greater resilience and capacity in being with and experiencing those things without it needing to be re-traumatizing or causing endless thought cyclones.
I have more power now to return to my body, listen to it, and trust its ability to process and move through things with vulnerability and grace.
-Natalie, Oakland CA
Credentials
- Ph.D in Somatic Psychology. International University of Professional Studies. Dissertation: Tending the Bones: Turning toward ancestors in service of erotic wellness after trauma.
- M.Ed in Montessori Education and Curriculum Design. Endicott College.
- Relational Life Therapy practitioner training with Terry Real. Ongoing.
- Certified Sexological Bodywork Practitioner. San Francisco.
- San Francisco Sex Information Certificate. San Francisco.
- Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Trauma Training, Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute, Marin CA.
- Ancestral Lineage Healing Practitioner Certificate. Ancestral Medicine.
- Somatics and Resilience: Strozzi Institute, generative somatics.
- Watsu and Oceanic Bodywork professional training ongoing. Quiet Healing Center, India.
- Conflict Resolution Certificate. Sonoma State University.
- Educational Therapy Certificate. UC Berkeley.
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I pay homage to my phenomenal teachers, including Joseph Kramer, Alex Jade, Lizz Randall, Staci Haines, Sylvie Minot, Lucia Horan, David Treleaven, Suzanne Sterling, Raven Stanfield, Kate Shela, Gabrielle Roth, Gina Ogden, Ellen Heed, Celeste and Danielle, Liam 'capt.' Snowdon, Steve Hoskinson, Armand Volkas, Terry Real, Daniel Foor, and Meredith Broome, among many others.
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Dr. Pavini Moray | Online Somatic Coaching and Couples Therapy
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Work with me – Somatic Coaching for Couples | Somatic Coaching for Individuals | Somatic Leadership Coaching
Books – Tending the Bones | How to Hold Power
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Serving clients in San Francisco, NYC, Los Angeles, and across the US.
Work with me – Somatic Coaching for Couples | Somatic Coaching for Individuals | Somatic Leadership Coaching
Books – Tending the Bones | How to Hold Power
Subscribe – Glitter Joyride Newsletter
Contact – Book a Free Consult | Send a Message
Instagram | LinkedIn
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